Tirukkural (by Tiruvalluvar, a Tamil poet/writer), written more than 5000 yrs ago, says the following about parenthood:
1. If your child lies to you often, you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behavior.
2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
3. If your child has poor self-esteem, you advise them more than you encourage them.
4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because, from a young age, you have disciplined them regularly in public.
5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them something, you don’t let them choose what they want.
6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, you give too much attention to misbehavior, and you provide a little attention to good behavior.
9. If your child is excessively jealous, you only congratulate them when they complete something and not when they improve at something, even if they don’t finish it.
10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, you are not physically affectionate enough.
11. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
12. If your child is secretive, they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.
13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think it’s normal behavior.
14. If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions
15. If your child rebels, it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.